PSYCHOLOGICAL BARRIERS that impact out riding.

PSYCHOLOGICAL BARRIERS and how they can affects us.

Ladies, here is a philosophical question for you; Do you have a concept of your brother cleaning the toilet and you helping your father repair a gate?? No? Can you see the subliminal messages given to us from an early age. I myself  was brought up with different expectations than that of my brothers. They got to make billy carts and I got to ride them, but no one expected that I might want to learn to make one too. So for many of us, we perceived certain roles in our lives and in many ways we were taught inequality.

Our parents did what all good parents do, they protected us when we are growing up. But sometimes they protected us too well, and we don’t learn to stand up for ourselves when someone else makes all our decisions for us. By taking responsibility from us and making those decisions, they taught us dependence. They taught us not to trust our own judgement.

On my own personal journey, every decision made for me by someone else, whether as a child or a married woman, was the same as saying I was incapable of making that decision for myself. By making those decisions for me, my confidence was damaged. To overcome that, I had to confront one fear at a time. Then one day I started to question what I was taught, and  that maybe what I was taught was wrong, that maybe I could have made a billy cart, or changed a tyre, or learn to built a bike….

When I look back in history 100yrs ago, women’s roles were very insignificant. How many female Doctors and Engineers were there? Today, we have a lot more faith in ourselves and me have aspirations of things that 100yrs ago would have been inconceivable. But there are still barriers. For as long as you believe other people are stronger than you, you see yourself as weaker than them. For as long as you perceive that men are different to women, you will not see yourself as an equal. There may be physical differences between us but I wonder how much those physical differences are hampered  by our  psychological beliefs.

By confronting your fears, you grow a little stronger every time. I myself questioned all the things I was taught when I was young, and I worked out one day, that I believed everyone else but myself. So one day I got on a bike, and with time I built confidence in my own ability. A bike helped me build confidence in myself. It also helped me question myself. Once I started riding with a group whom I  put on a pedestal, I thought one day, ‘ I Can Do This’. Then next it was, ‘ What else can I achieve?’

I am not a little girl any more and it doesn’t concern me what others think of me. Its not important what they think. It’s important what I believe. I don’t need to prove I’m an equal any more, I just have to believe it myself. We are not the weaker sex so we need to stop thinking that way.

For as long as you believe you can’t ride a bike you never will, but the sooner you accept that you have the same aptitude as anyone else to learn, the sooner you will achieve. Like anything, you need to believe it is achievable first. How can you win a race if you do not see yourself as a winner? Start believing it’s possible. The mind is far greater than the body. You don’t know what you can achieve until you try and you’re the only one who truly knows you. You are all DARK HORSES because anyone of you could be the next world champion and you don’t know your own potential unless you have tested that boundary.  So just how much do you want it?

 In the 1940′s, the 4 minute mile record was pushed to 4:01, where it stood for nine years, as runners struggled with the idea that, just maybe, the experts had it right.  Perhaps the human body had reached its limit. – It was said that to beat the 4 minute mile wasn’t possible. Did you know it wasn’t until 1954 that the 4 minute mile was broken by Roger Bannister. It was broken 23 times by 1960. It took one runner to believe it was achievable.

NEVER EVER GIVE UP

 It is my belief that most women have not reached the peak of their own ability, nor do I believe that they have even come close but our day is coming. I truly believe IT’S TIME.

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